As 11th graders, Persius and I know that high school can be an exciting and challenging time for many students, especially when it comes to making friends and combating shyness.

The good news is that with a few simple strategies, high schoolers can foster connections and build a supportive social network that enhances their overall high school experience.

Here are a few strategies that we believe can help anyone to make friends.

Initiate Conversations: One of the most effective ways to combat shyness is to actively initiate conversations. Start by introducing yourself to classmates, joining group discussions, or participating in extracurricular activities. Small talk about shared interests or classes can be a great icebreaker. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. 

Participate in activities: Break out of your comfort zone by being open to new experiences. Attend school events, functions, or social gatherings where you can interact with different people. The more diverse your experiences, the more likely you are to meet individuals with whom you connect. Attend school events such as sports games, dances, or cultural fairs. These gatherings provide a relaxed environment for socializing and meeting new people. Don’t hesitate to approach others and strike up a conversation about the event. High schools offer a plethora of clubs and activities covering various interests. Joining a club not only allows you to pursue your passions but also provides an excellent opportunity to meet like-minded individuals. This shared interest can serve as a natural conversation starter.

Be Interested in People: Friendships thrive on effective communication. Practice active listening by giving your full attention to others when they speak. Show genuine interest in their thoughts and opinions. This not only strengthens your interpersonal skills but also makes you more approachable. 

Collaborate: Group projects are a common aspect of high school academics. Seize these opportunities to collaborate with classmates. Working together on a project fosters teamwork and provides a shared goal, making it easier to build connections. 

Become Social: Social media can be a useful tool for connecting with peers. Follow classmates, join school groups, and participate in online discussions. However, it’s crucial to use social media responsibly and avoid excessive comparisons or negative interactions. 

Be Positive: A positive attitude goes a long way in making friends. Be kind, supportive, and approachable. Positivity attracts others and creates a welcoming atmosphere that encourages meaningful connections. 

Embrace Yourself: Building friendships often involves boosting self-confidence. Focus on your strengths, embrace your uniqueness, and be proud of your accomplishments. Confidence naturally attracts others and helps combat shyness. 

Have patience: Building lasting friendships takes time, so be patient and persistent. Don’t be discouraged by initial setbacks. Continue putting yourself out there, and over time, you’ll find genuine connections that contribute positively to your high school journey.

Overcoming shyness and making friends in high school is a gradual process that involves stepping out of your comfort zone, being proactive, and embracing new opportunities. By following these strategies, high schoolers can cultivate meaningful connections that enrich their social experiences and contribute to their personal growth.